An Inside Story 47
OUR FEAR OF BEING JUDGED…
COSMETICS help us to cover up the truth of who we really are by hiding our bare faces in public. Because of this, make-up has become an essential accessory in any woman’s handbag, especially in western society. Almost one in four women in the workforce believe that if they were not ‘made up’ they would be ignored for a promotion and 37 per cent believe management would assume they didn’t take care of themselves.
A professional life coach explained that a reliance on cosmetics can mean a woman is hiding more than a pale complexion or dark circles. “If the reason for wearing make-up lies in the woman feeling worried that people will judge her for the way she looks rather than who she is, that’s a problem that needs to be addressed.”
Make-up can help with a sense of self-respect. The reality is that we do judge people by how they look and this can be especially important for women in business who often need to appear professional. Women certainly credit their lipstick and mascara for a great deal.
While at home, more than a third of the 3,000 women polled were convinced their husbands would not have been attracted to them had they not been wearing make-up when they met – and even as the relationship progresses, they’re not convinced that natural beauty is enough.
The average woman waits at least two-and-a-half months in a relationship before revealing her face without the mask and 14 per cent even went as far as to say they get up early to put their face on before their partner wakes up. Add to that the startling fact that a surprising amount of married couples have never seen each other naked.
What would our world be like if we had no taboos or inhibitions about our bodies? If we were satisfied with the way we naturally looked and smelled? How would our attitudes to life and each other change? Would we be more relaxed with our body and those of others?
Hiding our real selves in public is well and truly entrenched in our western society. It’s too late to change the rules or people’s attitudes – so maybe it’s a change of mind that is needed…
Dan’s Quote:- “A friend is one who knows you…
______________and loves you just the same.”- Elbert Hubbard
Inspiration for this article came from the writings of Eckhart Tolle, A Course In Miracles, Joel Kramer, Abraham, Vernon Howard, Many Others – and life itself.