WHEN FIRST BORN, we are not only helpless, but are vulnerable as everything is bewildering in this strange new environment. With the help of our parents, we slowly feel our way, becoming accustomed to this newness around us and accepting this strange body that encases us as being who we are.
During this self discovery process, we establish a set of beliefs about who we are. And as time goes by, they form the basis of our perceived identity. One impediment we do have however to this establishment of identity is that we are susceptible to the opinions and judgments of others.
We’re inclined to take notice of other people’s opinion of us, whether it’s by a remark, sly look or gesture and especially so when it’s negative. Gullibly, we take their judgments of us to heart, unquestioningly accepting it as being what sort of a person we must be.
Depending on what company we are in, friends, strangers, the work place etc, we will automatically adjust our behaviour accordingly so that we can fit in with what we believe that particular person or group of people thinks and expects of us. We are all locked into this inane mindset of trying to be someone we’re not.
We are unaware that the way we interact with people is totally misconstrued and the opinions and judgments that we subconsciously hold about ourselves, garnered mostly from others, are therefore only second hand, fragmented perceptions that we mistakenly take as being the truth about what sort of a person we are.
The problem is allowing the opinions of others to influence who you are. It’s not! You are a completely different person to what other people think. Don’t identify with them! Watch the thoughts and feelings as they flash through your mind, especially when confronted by negative slurs on your character, but don’t say ‘I’ to them.
You must not identify yourself as being who they think you are… or even who you think you are. This impersonal approach breaks the destructive habit of falsely labelling yourself as someone you’re not. You’re okay just as you are, so try being exactly that, no matter what company you are in…
Dan’s Quote: “You need to start ignoring everyone else’s expectations
______________and start living up to my own.”
Header: First light overlooking the ‘Nepean River‘, Emu Plains, NSW, Australia.