YOU ARE WHO YOU ARE GODAMN IT! And like everybody else, you have every right to be that way. You don’t need to change just because others think you should. The problem is those self appointed judges are usually close family members… people you love… and claim to love you!

The ones who take the liberty of trying to correct you would get rather angry if you dared tell them where you thought they were going wrong with their lives, wouldn’t they? Of course to be completely honest you do judge other people just as much as they judge you, isn’t that the way? It’s a part of human nature.

The fact is, people who criticize us have just as many flaws as we do, but we all conveniently forget that fact. But this is more about self esteem than about who judges who. Negative criticism by others influences how we regard ourselves. Whether we like it or not, what other people think of us matters… but it shouldn’t.

Negative criticism is a major problem for the self esteem of children also. They are usually too scared to answer back because the chastisement usually comes from grownups and they are bigger and more imposing than they are. That’s how all this negative crap started for us… way back when we were kids.

You are the right person, this is the right time, you’re thinking the right thoughts,
you’re doing the right thing and at this very moment,
you are exactly where you’re supposed to be!

We tend to live our lives according to the ‘you should be’ of others rather from our own self determination. So don’t ever feel bad for making a decision about your own life that upsets other people.

You are not responsible to them, or for their happiness. You are responsible for your own life and your own happiness, always. You are who you are and you have every right to be…

Dan’s Quote: “I would rather sit alone in silence,  
_____________than with people who judge the way I live.”

Header: ‘Cradle Mountain’ Tasmania, Australia