The Needless Anguish Of Guilt
OH NO, WHY DID I HAVE TO GO AND SAY (OR DO) THAT? Usually this question arises a little while after the event; when our crazy mind begins its repeat cycle of regurgitation, exaggerating our supposed sin more and more each time. And then the remorse sets in like a heavy soggy blanket overpowering our conscience.
We are bombarded with negative feelings of guilt every day. We have this ridiculous tendency to saddle ourselves up with self imposed yokes of responsibility for any wrong that we think we may have inflicted on another, whether they are aware of it or not.
No matter if it’s real or imagined, the deep feelings of guilt resulting from not saying or doing the right thing causes suffering, regret and self loathing. Guilt makes us ignore our own well being while we endeavor to right the situation. We over give of ourselves. We are willing to do anything, even kowtow to them in an attempt to make the them accept us again.
Guilt requires memory to be able to function. The anguish of guilt is the result of what we have perceived to have done to someone else in the past. The incident that caused the guilt no longer exists, it is gone, it is part of what used to be, but our mind cannot let it go, causing ourselves unnecessary torment.
Guilt is an unconscious negative emotion that lives in past memories. We simply cannot be guilty in the present moment. If truth be known, the person that we feel guilty of supposedly wronging has moved on and forgotten the incident altogether – if they ever were aware of it in the first place – and yet we insanely cling to our pain.
It invades our mind like a malignant cancer. All of this guilt is within our own mind, not out there or in the other person. We must learn to constantly forgive ourselves for being human. If we can do that, the dis-ease of guilt will be miraculously cured…
Dan’s Quote: “Guilt is an emotional weapon that we use to inflict self harm”